April 18, 2011

100 Facts About Me #4

I hate clingy.

I'm sure at one point or another in my life I've been clingy.  I'm also older, smarter, wiser (ha!) & a LOT more independent than the Tiff of years past.   I am NOT clingy now.  I value my alone time, whether I use that time productively or not.  Yes, I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for six years but NO I do not feel like I have to spend every fucking waking minute with him.  I am my own person, capable of doing things by myself or if I choose, people other than my boyfriend.  I don't need to be around him 24/7.  If I go away somewhere, he's still as much my boyfriend as if I was sitting next to him.  I just don't get it.


See, the thing that pisses me off is this - you got along perfectly fine without the person with whom you are in a relationship BEFORE you were in a relationship with said person.  (are you following me here?) WHY is it, now, you can't seem to?  I was clingy, I'm sure, when I was a teenager.  When you're in High School and all you have to worry about is your boyfriend/girlfriend & what your friends are doing on a Friday night, Clingy is kind of part of the deal.  I'm not saying it's ok, but it's less severe an offense in my mind than when a full grown "adult" does it.

Listen up class - this is important.  If you are a clingy person, you will eventually suffocate the one you cling to.  This will do one of two things:  they will stay with you because they love you but feel a little resentment at the fact that they don't ever have alone time OR the suffocation will get to its boiling point and they will leave because they can't take it anymore.  Things need to breathe.  People are not a possession.  They are a serendipitous event that happens to you.  They're a wonderful gift (the good ones anyway).

ADULT.  As an adult, certain things are expected of you.  Rent or a Mortgage bill, Utility Bills, Levelheaded Thinking, Maturity, Jobs, A Car & Car Insurance, Independence, maybe credit card bills....etc. (you see where I am going with this)

I just don't see where clingy fits into this "adult" life.


Put on your big girl/boy panties.  Man up.  Go do what needs to be done.  Live life.  Have fun.  Your significant other will be right there waiting for you when you're done.  And if they aren't?  They weren't worth it anyway.  TRUTH.