July 12, 2018

6 Things Every Single Girl Should Enjoy About The Experience

Getting married and having kids are things on the agenda for a lot of women. And, for many single women that are looking to start a family, the sooner the better. Time waits for no person is a mantra which constantly taps the back of the brain. Find a partner, fall in love, and settle down. Well, it will happen soon enough, but for now, you’re single and it can be quite enjoyable.

Believe it or not, there are pros to being alone. Sure, during the holiday season such as Christmas the urge to find a soul mate can get stronger. However, this is one period every twelve months. During the rest of the year, single people are free to do whatever they want without the restrictions of a ball and chain. Some people never get the flexibility to do them, which is why it’s wrong not to try and enjoy the single journey.

With that in mind, this post has put together a list of six things that everyone in the same boat should attempt. Not all of them will appeal to you, so pick the ones which do and focus your energy on them. Here are six things every single girl should enjoy about the experience.



Play The Field

Dating is scary, awkward and unpredictable. First dates may not last longer than thirty minutes, or they may go on into the night. Still, nothing is guaranteed in the dating world. Someone who has been speaking to you for three months may suddenly disappear into the night without warning. Ghosting is a real thing and it sucks. Navigating the minefield takes time, patience and a whole lot of courage.

There is a positive side of playing the field, though. There is the excitement of meeting a guy and finding common ground. There are the moments when you laugh and joke and fall head over heels. Or, there are the first kisses and the third date coffees and the initial honeymoon period. Most importantly, there is the freedom to meet new people and test the waters.

Playing the field is something single women need to do for their sake. Being alone can be hard, which is why there is no point drowning in self-pity. Get out there and date says Glamour. Dance the night away, drink until three in the am, or share a desert in a candlelit restaurant. Enjoy what the realm of dating has to offer because everything changes when you are a part of a couple.


Take A Trip
Regular readers will know that traveling is a big part of this blog, so this blatant plug shouldn’t come as a surprise. Any excuse to get out into the world and to experience new customs and cultures. For single women, an extended vacation represents the great things about the lifestyle. Do you fancy a holiday in the sun, one booked on a whim? No problemo because there is no one to convince but yourself. Hubby doesn’t need time off work and the kids don’t have to miss school. Plus, there is usually plenty of money for the budget because there’s one person to please.

Aside from the freedom, there is an element of reconnecting. Couples put their relationship above all others. Friends and family members don’t get shunned but they take a backseat. And, there is nothing wrong with this because a partner is the most important person in the world. Still, it’s nice to reconnect and bridge the gap when you do have “me” time. Taking a trip with a friend, or a group of them should help you bond again.

Best friends are always close, but a trip to Germany or the Caribbean will tighten those links.



Spend Time With Married Friends
The idea of spending a weekend away with a married couple is a little over-the-top. Sure, you love your buddies but there is no need to be in such close quarters for three days. In the end, someone may end up falling out or arguing or feeling uncomfortable. It’s the last thing any single person wants to do with their precious free-time. However, there is a method to the madness.

Unattached people tend to romanticize a relationship. They buy into the Hollywood version of plenty of sex and cuddles and gazing into each others’ eyes lovingly. In the beginning, the movie version of being in a couple is true to some degree. But, it changes over time as the lust wears off and the love settles in. As a singleton, seeing how this manifests itself is a smart move. People argue while others bicker and some lose all interest.

From your perspective, watching this live in color may make your love your life more. The thought of being one of these couples at this stage in your life could encourage you to seize the moment. Also, when Mr Right does appear, you can use the experience to avoid the common pitfalls. Think of it a recon mission.


Invest In Health And Fitness

“One body to rule them all.” If Lord of the Rings were about well-being, this would have been the tagline to the movie. After all, there are no second chances once the body you have starts to decline. The only option is to lead a healthy lifestyle and maintain a strong attachment to health and fitness. As dull as it sounds, it will pay dividends in the long-term when you’re middle-aged and look thirty.

Attached people get into a rut because they are comfortable. Working out isn’t as necessary when the person you’re with loves you regardless. There is no motivation to hit the gym and lose the puppy fat. If anything, couples are as inclined to put on weight rather than shed the pounds. Attracting a partner isn’t straightforward because of the level of competition, so investing in exercise can turn heads. Moms into Fitness has a range of routines for women who are self-conscious and busy at the same time.

What’s great about being a singleton is the lack of pressure. There are no other bad habits in your life encouraging you to fall off of the path. All that exists is what you include in your lifestyle. Stick to a healthy routine, then, and you’ll be in the best shape of your life. Plus, you’ll be happier than ever too.




Meet New People
The aim of your game may be to find a life partner, but socializing isn’t solely about tying someone down. It is possible for men and women to have a conversation without the specter of sexual tension filling the room. As crazy and modern as the theory sounds, opposite genders can be friends. And, buddies are what you need at this juncture in your life.

As positive as this post has been so far, single life can be lonely. Plenty of women start to feel sorry for themselves and get lost in their emotions. Sitting at home eating ice-cream becomes the norm rather than the anomaly which proves the rule. Talking to strangers and getting to know new people is an excellent way to get out of a funk. To begin with, it helps you forget about being single and alone. Also, it shatters those emotions because you aren’t lonely any longer. There are people all around who love you.

Finally, finding a partner is a numbers game. By socializing with different groups, there is a good chance that you’ll come across the man of your dreams. And, because it comes out of the blue, the feelings are heightened and the experience better than you could have imagined.


Find Oneself
The heading alone evokes feelings of pretension. Isn’t finding oneself something which yogi instructors do in the depths of India? No thank you; it’s not for moi. You don’t need to find yourself – you need to locate the person who is going to stay with you forever. There is no point in wasting time doing anything else.

As it happens, there is because learning about numero uno is a fantastic way to trace Mr Right. Self-reflection is an effective way to learn about your flaws. Everyone has them, but no one likes to focus on them because it makes people anxious. A truly happy person is one who crushes toxic habits which get in the way of life. Lifehack has a list of five that you should look out for and how to break them. When there are only pros, no one will be able to see the cons. If they do, they will pale in comparison.

Analyzing your personality isn’t about other people. It’s about you and what you are willing to accept. Think about the concept of a type. Everyone thinks they have one, yet it can change over time. The bad boy who was appealing the past isn’t the man for the job now when you’re older and more mature. Delving into your mind will reveal what you want in a bf, fiancĂ© or husband.


Do you think you can enjoy the single experience?

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